What I Would (not) do if I Were a Guy with a Girlfriend II

I enjoyed Julia's post on this so much that I decided to do one of my own. You may be surprised that I have more to add to Julia's list, but, amazingly, I can scrape some additional things together:

1. I would not cry more than my girlfriend. Let me tell you, I cry very easily. There's nothing wrong with crying in my books; in fact, I think it's good to let out emotion if you need to. However, I have to say that dealing with a boyfriend who cries more than I do (when I am both depressed and very emotional) can be pretty difficult. Cry when you need to, but please don't throw constant tantrums!

2. I would not continually put my girlfriend down and pick fights. Really, that's something that should be avoided generally with everyone, but if fights are necessary, I wouldn't keep my girlfriend up until all hours of the morning while I cried on the other end of the phone. I would also avoid saying deliberately cruel things to make her upset.

3. I would not get angry at my girlfriend if I had a dream that she cheated on me. Trust is a good thing. 

4. I would not cheat on my girlfriend or make jokes about cheating on my girlfriend or try to make my girlfriend jealous to test the degree of her feelings.

5. I would not harass my ex-girlfriend for months after she broke up with me. I might take the fact that she broke up with my gracefully instead of attempting to ruin her life. 

6. I'd avoid generally childish behaviour like moping and prank-calling my girlfriend/ex-girlfriend. 

7. I would respect my girlfriend's limits. 

8. I would avoid all sexist comments and accept my girlfriend as my equal. There's no bigger turn off than sexism. 

9. I would not make my girlfriend feel like she owed me anything. 

10. I would avoid making racist, unkind, judgmental comments and spreading constant negativity. And embarrassing my girlfriend in public through such comments.

In short, I would try very hard to not be a jerk. There are more things to put on the list (amazing, right?) but I feel guilty enough for just posting this. Still, I hope this was an entertaining read and all of us can commiserate about our past failed relationships! At the very least, I hope we can all learn something about our own standards (and what we won't ever do to our partners).

-Laura