So, first of all; why would I want to ask her out in the first place?
That's a good question, to be sure. You hear stories of people asking others out just for the sake of being in a relationship, and I don't want to be one of those guys. What are my motives?
First and foremost is that I enjoy spending time with her, and I'd like to maximize that time. Over the years we have done some great things together. Two school plays were followed by an amazing hiking trip in Drumheller, all of which gave us time to build up our friendship. She's smart, funny, and most importantly, kind. But why shouldn't I leave it at friends? Why does it have to be "official?"
That's another difficult question to answer. However, there does seem to be a clear line between a friend and best friend/girlfriend, and that's defined by the level of connection between people. My normal friends are generally great, but I couldn't call any of them a my best friend. We joke, we joke some more, we laugh some. Never do we talk about anything meaningful, which is what I want and believe qualifies someone as your best friend. In that respect I want to make the girl I like not only my girlfriend, but my best friend.
Another reason I'd want to ask her out? I feel that, whether it went terribly or wonderfully, the encounter would teach me things that I could take with me later in life. If it worked out, then great; if not, I could say that I gave my best effort and besides, I'd have something to write about ;).
The next problem I encounter in the relationship saga is whether or not she wants to take it a step further. We've figured out some reasons why I'd want to, but why would she? Very likely she still views me as a friend. All I'm running on here is a school dance, my sisters encouragements, and intense hope.
The signs that I do see look good. It's those that I don't see that bother me.
Perhaps one of the biggest problems in the whole affair is that I'm sure that another guy also likes her. In fact, he asked her to the dance where I snuck in a dance of my own. It would seem that he got the same treatment at the dance that I did- so who's to say that she wouldn't prefer him over me?
Finally, there's the timing of everything. There are only three weeks left in school now. Hardly much time to get to know someone well. After those three weeks the summer rolls around, where I'll be gone the entire month of August and busy with summer school in July. Would I have time for a relationship? Would she?
Still, I feel as if there's no way to find out unless I go for it. Laura and her friend are prodding me forward, saying to take my chances while the signs are good. And why the hell not?
So here's the game plan, people;
Tuesday; Approach the other guy who likes her. He's a half friend of mine, and so I feel like the nicest thing to do would be to go up to him and say "hey Joe, I know that you like Josephine, and you've probably figured out that I like her too. Here's the thing; I'm seriously considering asking Josephine out, but I don't want to seem like a dick and hurt our friendship. Would you be offended if I did ask Josephine out?"
I'm sure that "Joe" would give me the thumbs up, as it would make the situation terribly awkward if he told me to back off. Besides, he's going to a different high school then me and the girl, and so I should be able to rub him off next year anyway.
Wednesday; Test the waters with the girl. Approach her boldly, talk to her directly, make it fairly obvious that I'm seeking her out. Then, if the signs seem good...
Thursday; Ask her out, dammit. I've got nothing to lose, and my life motto of late has been "screw it and do it." It's helped me in almost everything I've done. Maybe it'll work here.
Now the only question is where, and when? But that's a story for another day.
Thanks for reading,
-Mark
PS: We missed the 200'th post. Whoops.
PPS: LAURA GET OFF MY ACCOUNT! Nice post yesterday, by the way.
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